Conquering . Overcoming

Spoke to Yee toaday. There are so much things about myself tht I need to rearrange.
这是再起点，是转捩点。

Mount Kinabalu.
好想去爬一爬。


This photo of Mount Kinabalu is courtesy of TripAdvisor

Animal Instinct

哥说, 受伤了不要紧。
要紧的是要像Wolverine, 要会self-heal。
而且, 要快。

Listen - you can’t let me die!

Dear 友人

张小娴经典语录100句
http://blog.readnovel.com/article/htm/tid_203738.html


她的句子有时会让人痛彻心扉。不过，痛过之后就好了。你也找一句适合自己的吧。


From 萌

Sandbox

was repacking some stuff, and found a dream fr 2007

Managing Transition

Today's reflection was from yesterday networking session: Managing Transition.

Big word? No. We are all constantly going through this more often than we realised.

Transition, or Change, simply put, is ending of something old, and something new begins.

so, it is supposed to be simple. but y then are human always resisting changes and y are some change so difficult?

Lim Peng Soon, the speaker, asked us to share our experiences and we gather that it is because we have feeling attached to certain things that we kept hanging on to the old things; and in some examples, if there's a change, we faced losses. Hence, to help us to pass through from ending to a new beginning, we need to Manage Transitions.

LPS was speaking in terms of organisation change - changing of corporate structure, changing of leadership, changing of department objectives and roles, we need to manage transitions. But i am thinking in terms of personal change, personal transitions.

how do one pass from one relationship into a neutral zone, and finally into a new beginning of a new chapter of life? what abt the lost of a love one? there are ppl who nv made it thru the phase to the neutral zone, let alone a new beginning.

and the lost of our comfort zone, stability and good remuneration when took risk to switch to a new job? we always thot the previous job was better than our current one. the past is always better than present, somehow.

LPS shared that we need to focus on the gain that we will get, then work towards tht. nothing's gonna change abt tht empty seat at the dinner table or a relationship tht nv is gonna work out. Focus on wat we wan to do, then move thru the low period. so, identify ur own denial and resistant. or the next time u meet with someone going thru the transition, help them to see that the new beginning is waiting.

focus on the bright lights, my friends :)

kawan @ jln kayu

with the boys, i can always be the teenage me.
love my suppers and lauf so hard tht i felt my abs toned already. wahaha..

hapi frens. hapi food.

paper chase

师姐告诉过我，不要一开始就把力气用完，以后的路还长。
但我只想不顾一切，只要过关就好。可是真的，现在的确有点撑不住了。
十公里跑到了一半，就算缺水缺氧，也要努力完成！

middle road

Mr Param said, watever u do, dun be in the middle of the road. u'd be sure to bullied and run down by cars. knw where u wanna stand, and then plan to move your way up. it's applicable in business mgt, n it's the same for life.

from now on, there wil be minimun 'dunno', 'anything', 'i'm ok'.

let yourself go

seriously. i din think of watching it, thot it's too much hype. no, din read the book either. but thanks to elle for bringing me, and we watched it anyway despite hving to travel fr kallang to her office at clementi and back to suntec again.
it touches me in many ways. i wish, one day, we will all find a word for us, forgive and find way back to ourselves.

why..?

from Est

成就

什么都做到了。
可是什么也没做到。

一时之气

Lesson from this wk:

Be extremely subtle, even to the point of formlessness. Be extremely mysterious, even to the point of soundlessness.

Carrot told us his story of almost sending out an sms that disclose his fear. The guy who shouted at his mun (again). The newbie manager who is eagar to straighten things without much strategy.

要沉得住气。要按兵不动.

The self-fulfilling prophecy

wanna record about "The Pygmalion Effect" i've heard abt today.
AC told us on our las day of the LPM course that there's this researcher who talks to a jar of water, telling it consistently that it's a jar of bad water, it's useless, n he'll pour it away. he told a 2nd jar of water, that it's a good jar of water, it's his livestock, and he will drink it.

some days later, the first jar of water, turned bad and start to smell bad. the second jar, however, stay the same.
then, he did it to 2 bowls of rice. and this time again, the first bowl turns bad, the second bowl, stayed the same.

this is not a new theory. this is also something we've talk abt everyday - positive self-talk. tell yourself that u hv bad skin, looks ugly, is stupid and wil fail in life. u probably wil.

now, u decide wat u wanna tell urself in the mirror tomolo morning. if u will, tell gd things to others too... sounds like we can change the world too, hehe.

take care, good rice!

coping with black swans

i thot all swans in the world are white.
until i meet a black one.

black swans cant hurt me.
i'm sure it's for a purpose. i'm sure i can sail thru all right.

it's ok to be alone.

Listen

yes, Est, I'm stil digging ur tumblr.

and yes, i'm lucky that i've my two listeners today when i need. one gave me a nudge and ask me to wake up; the other lend me a sholder to cry on. Thnks Kn, Ag.

玩具

地铁车厢里，
前面一对情侣在用PSP对打，
一个geek在翻漫画。
门旁两个人在聊天。
前后左右的十个人在玩ifone。
还有一个，
在算旁边的人在干嘛。

不是在抗拒什么。
只是不想时刻离不开新世代玩具。
一天24小时，除了睡觉上班，
希望还有一点时间可以放空、发呆。

城市人，休息一下吧。

Did u spit it out?

topic of the week - giving and receiving feedback at workplace.

come to think of it, we nv reali took it seriously. feedback can come in verbal and non-verbal; some thru more formal means, some jus thru casual coffee talks, but we din reali pick it up.

i din took much notice as well until some years ago when we did a session for a client for a group of their managers on "Giving & Receiving Feedback", i realised tht it is reali an art itself.

In tht session, i hv benefited much. feedback shd be treated as a gift. only ppl who cares wil present u the gift, and once its given to you, its yours. it's reali up to you wat u wan to do with it. you can choose to ignore and chuck it aside, or to take it with grace and look at it objectively.

when giving feedback, sometimes we may not knw the intention of the other person. but we need to give factual accounts abt the action the person took and impact it has on us.

and Sli told me once, u if dun tell the person, how does he knw he is wrong? then nex time he wil sure to repeat the mistake again.

so this wk, tht's a fair bit going on in the office. i hope to encourage communicating, so that it wil help us to clear the choking chute.

same for any relationship - assumption and bagging up little grievances does not help at all. get to the root of the problem. dun jus cure the symptoms... but hor, say is say la, not easy rite?

上课了

it was only until i sat in the classroom, n lecturer asking "does everyone has a team?", i realised this is real. i'm in it already. i look at the lecturer, and a quick at my classmates. i knew no one.

i'm ok to take any course alone. hv done tht many times. but this is the only time i wish i hv a friend beside me. the rest of the class are existing students, n hv alrady form their mutal work group.

adding on to these is the painful cycle: an individual assignment, group work n presentation follow by a 3-hr written examination every 3 mths. I need to complete 6 of such cycles.

i knw almost everyone has been thru these. but reali, i wish i'll b out of it soon.

我安慰自己：要变漂亮就要忍受整形的痛苦.比上眼睛，一切很快会过去。

Freedom

说真的，小鸟飞得再高，有一天终究要回巢。
又何必为了想再享受从前的自由，而放弃现在的快乐，未来的幸福？

本分

百度词典里：

本分běn fèn 基本解释

1. [one's duty]∶自己应尽的责任和义务
2. [agendum]∶属于实际职责的事
3. [not go beyond one’s bounds]∶安于所处的地位和环境本分人

there is a system everything. in the biomes as well as human society. do less of what is required of ur duty, and it will hv impact on other things.

like a lion turning vegetarian. like the worker ant starts to be calculative. like a son not taking care of his own sick mum, like a production line worker misses a chip in all the notebooks tht passes his station.

i was describing to Ho tht nite. an organisation functions like a human body. nothing works out too long if the left hand is paralyzed, the right hand is overworked; the legs are walking too slow and yet wanna kaypo wat the hands are doing. the head is aching and heavy, the tired body stil need to take care of every other areas, trying to puull everything together.

if only we play our just part well as a son/daughter, sibling, a teamplayer, a leader, a friend, a helpful stranger. wouldnt all things be bright and beautiful? is it too much to ask?