Dear 友人

张小娴经典语录100句
http://blog.readnovel.com/article/htm/tid_203738.html


她的句子有时会让人痛彻心扉。不过，痛过之后就好了。你也找一句适合自己的吧。


From 萌

谁明理谁当备胎

又一张妈妈递给我的短篇文章.

谁明理谁当备胎 (文／吴淡如)

某周六下午，晓娜接到阿强的电话，约她晚上吃饭。 阿强是她的同事，两人比同事的感情要好一点。 他约她单独吃饭，该是对她展开行动了。 心中雀跃的她梳妆打扮，没想到正打电话叫车要赶赴约会地点时，阿强打电话来说：“家里有急事，改天再吃饭好吗？”

虽然失望，晓娜还是提醒自己做个明理的女人，不要追问原因。 可是已经打扮好，还是出去晃晃算了。 她约了好友，到阿强原来订位的餐厅用餐。 出乎意料，阿强坐在里头，对面是一个清秀女子。

原来阿强说谎。 挣扎了几天，她终于忍不住跑去问阿强。 “噢，她是我以前的同学，我家那天真的有急事，可是她忽然打电话来，说她失恋了，我怕如果我不去陪她，她会想不开，她以前就有自杀纪录。” “喔。”晓娜接受了。 阿强为了向晓娜赔罪，果然镇重的请晓娜吃了一顿饭。 这是两人交往前发生的事。 直到一年后，晓娜才发现，自己只是阿强的备胎情人，而那个坐在阿强对面“有自杀纪录”的女子，才是他正牌女友。

正牌女友不理阿强时，阿强找她填补空档，正牌女友愿意临幸他时，他马上回她身边。 晓娜问他：“为何我总是被牺牲的那一个？” “妳比较明理，不像她会无理取闹，所以我无可奈何。”晓娜一直被阿强用这样的话安抚着。 “难道理性也是一种错吗？”晓娜伤心的说。

理性不是错。 错在于他比较爱另外一个女人。 而妳喜欢他也比他喜欢妳多一些。 遇到一个老是把妳放在次要考虑的人，妳早该表达不满，或早该走了，却还留在原地体恤、纵容他的谎言，会让他以为，妳就是甘于做备胎情人。

CHOICE—A Brief Reflection

for the frist time, i'm excited abt our newsletter. YC interupted our meeting one day as he read this to us:

CHOICE—A Brief Reflection
By Richard W Smith, depth-educator

I have choice. I was invited by STADA’S CEO, Robert Yeo, to offer a brief reflection on this interesting word: Choice. When I take time to reflect upon this concept I find myself generating many questions and I will be sharing some of these in the brief piece which follows. Perhaps there will be enough variety that each person who reads this reflection will choose a question or two to respond to or perhaps will choose to engage one or two in a searching conversation with another.

I have choice. To choose means that I select freely after consideration. As I sit here and reflect upon this definition a number of questions emerge into my consciousness: How often do I choose? How many times a day do I actually choose? During the past hour what have I chosen? Does it matter whether I am aware of choosing? Can I really choose if I am not aware? How much awareness can I stand anyway? I pause and then become aware of more questions that are finding their way into my consciousness: What is the effect of my choosing upon myself? What is the effect of my choosing upon others? Do I accept, or is it ‘do I believe,’ that choice is covered by the skin of responsibility? What motivates me when it comes to making a choice? What is the motivation that is the life-blood that feeds and sustains choice and that keeps responsibility supple, flexible and healthy? What is the motivation that infects the life-blood with a cancer that kills both choice and responsibility?

I have choice. As a human being I am a living paradox. I have the potential for great good and I have the potential for great evil. I have virtues, like integrity, wisdom, courage, compassion, and love, which I choose to bring to my world. I have vices, like deception, culpable ignorance, cowardice,resentment and spite, which I also choose to bring to my world. How aware am I when I choose to bring one of these virtues or one of these vices to my world? To what extent do I believe that the virtue or vice I bring to my world nurtures or depletes me and all those I directly touch and many more that I indirectly touch? Why do I choose to bring this virtue or that vice to my world – what motivates me to choose one over the other?

I have choice. My conduct, what I choose to enact each moment, is a reflection of my choice? Or is it? To what extent can I claim that my conduct occurs out of habit or as a reaction to a stimulus? To what extent is my conduct rooted in logical, rational reasoning? To what extent is my conduct rooted in my emotions? Does it matter? Do I care? Should I care if I don’t? To what extent is my conduct truly rooted in my selecting freely after consideration? To what extent does my conduct reinforce future choices? To what extent does my conduct support my awareness of my choices? To what extent does my conduct feed a virtue or nurture a vice?

I have choice. To what extent do I have an obligation to learn more and more about who I am and to learn more and more about who I am choosing to become? To what extent do I have an obligation to examine my life so that I know what motivates me at the core of who I am? To what extent do I have an obligation to reflect upon my choices so that I will learn more about the ‘me’ that impacts the many ‘yous’ I meet each day? How can I help others grow and develop more fully if I am not aware of how I engage, or refuse to engage, choice? Do I tell those I am entrusted with helping to develop, ‘Do as I say, not as I do?’ Can I ask those I am entrusted with helping to develop, perhaps especially those who are considered to be leaders, to examine the choices they make without examining the choices I make – and still act ethically?

I have choice. Do I choose to go it alone or do I choose to commit to being a life-long searcher and learner as a member of a community of service; a community that is committed to helping co-create healthier individuals, teams and organizations and that is ultimately committed to helping co-create a better world? How much choice do I really want?

I have a choice.

About the Writer
Mr Richard W. Smith is a depth-educator and organizational development specialist. For the past 35 years he has been helping individuals, teams,and organizations develop more fully. He has facilitated more than 875 seminars, workshops and learning sessions and has spent more than 40,000 hours working with organizations. He has helped a number of organizations adopt the servant-as-leader concepts. In addition to his providing consultation and coaching to organizations, Richard facilitates retreats/renewals, learning sessions, develops and delivers special programs, delivers keynote addresses, facilitates Reading & Dialogue groups, and writes.

extracted from STADA i-share

Learn the Language

Las nite AJ spoke about the workshop she attended on 5 Love Languages.
Saw CC posted a comment on 5 Love Languages on FB this morning.

5 Love Languages: which one are you? and how do u show love to those ard u?

Words of Affirmation: little words of appreciation and "l love u" does make a difference
Quality Time: give them full, undiveded attention to let them knw u r with them
Receiving Gifts: little tokens to show tht u hv them on ur mind anytime
Acts of Service: Share the chore; drive them to work
Physical Touch: give them a hug each day

Wat u scan is wat u r

took this para off from a book:

There is a saying in India,"When a pickpocket meets a saint, all he sees are the pockets."
Our motives shape how we see the world; all attention is selective, and what matters
to us most is what we automatically scan for.

It says 'someone who is motivated to get results notices ways to do better, to be entrepreneurial, to innovate, or to find a competitive advantage.. people who is motivated by the pleasure of her relationships with her students, peers, seek opportunities for connection.

so it also means someone who is critical will start to scan faults; or someone who is caring will scan for opportunities to shower tender loving care?

What do u scan for? what do u see?

Review

this is like an expresso - compressed, concentrated, and a good base for making other drinks.

he puts in many of the things u already knw, but he help u to see them, remember them, and move on with things.

and i share almost the same view here.

Fish!

seen this book ard. finally borroweed it fr the company library.

it's abt work life attitude. The FISH! Philosophy includes four simple, interconnected practices:

Be There . Play . Make Their Day . Choose Your Attitude

And towards last part of the book comes an extract from John Gardner:

“Meaning is not something you stumble across, like the answer to a riddle or the prize in a treasure hunt. Meaning is something you build into your life. You build it out of your own past, out of your affections and loyalties, out of the experience of humankind as it is passed on to you, out of your own talent and understanding, out of the things you believe in, out of the things and people you love, out of the values for which you are willing to sacrifice something. The ingredients are there. You are the only one who can put them together into that unique pattern that will be your life. Let it be a life that has dignity and meaning for you. If it does, then the particular balance of success or failure is of less account.”

for us when we are unsure of our decisions.

命中注定要愛你

last night after wash-up, i walk to the living room and prepare to turn on the OTO back massager. As I sat down, my mum showed me a page from sunday's Zhao Bao, pointed at one of the short passage and asked me to read:

命中注定要愛你
吳淡如


愛情中最美好的一種感覺，就是有一天，

你忽然遇到了一個命中注定的人，然後，他也愛你。

小學暗戀長大重逢

阿項和晴晴在認識一年後，宣布結婚。

因為他們認為彼此是命中注定要變成情人的。

3個月前，阿項在香港機場撿到了晴晴掉落的絲巾，

他叫住了她，發現這個女孩十分清秀可人。

兩人行色匆匆，阿項也木訥，不敢搭訕，

錯過了和她認識的機會。

回到台北，某天與朋友約在百貨公司裡吃飯，

和朋友邊走邊聊天，

卻被一個走路匆匆忙忙的女人撞個正著。

她說「對不起」時抬頭看他，

楞了一下，這人怎麼似曾相識。阿項先認出她來，

跟她說：「小姐，我們前幾天在香港機場見過，

不是嗎？」他終於遞出了名片，

也拿到晴晴的名片。兩人用ＭＳＮ連繫時，

竟然發現兩人都曾念過台南的某個中學，

而當時讓阿項每天偷偷眺望的轉學生就是晴晴，

可惜沒多久晴晴又到美國讀書了。

晴晴也對該校的優等生兼運動健將阿項，

留下了深刻的印象。

兩人覺得人生中多次重逢，必然不是巧合，

一定是冥冥中有條紅線，

將兩人牽繫在一起，若再錯過，

就對不起月下老人。

喜帖上寫著：上天注定我愛妳。

有上天注定的感覺並不容易，

多半要有一種「似曾相識」的直覺，

溝通上也要有琴瑟合鳴般的默契，

從靈魂到身體，兩個人都覺得非你莫屬。

而這樣的感覺，也還要在度過3個月熱戀期後還持續著，

才算是通過考驗，否則，只能算一時意亂情迷。

最悲哀是相見恨晚

人人渴望有命中注定的人變成自己的終身伴侶。

然而，人生中最悲哀的感覺，就是有一天，

你忽然發現自己遇到了一個命中注定的人，

然後，不管怎樣，他就是不愛你。

或者，你已經在感情世界中動彈不得，

才不經意遇見命中注定的那人，而他也深愛你

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i wonder y she thot this is relevant to me. she said,"to remind u to watch ur opportunities, dun let it slipped away. be it relationship or anything you wanted to do in life..."

i knw le, thanks mum.