"懂得遗忘的人找到自由".

很多时候，我们以为我们已经原谅了别人，也原谅了自己。可是一旦触碰到那道在心上的疤时，又有几个可以真的忘记发生过的事？

我就是那种"forgive but not forget" 的人。所以，心里有一座垃圾山，堆满的就是一些自己或别人的烂账。所谓的"forgive" 也变得很superficial. 这样下去，难过的只有自己。

所以，唯一解脱的方法就是真的原谅与放弃。只有这样，下一次就算有人又在掀开你任何一条烂账、苍疤时，你也能够一笑置之，不再害怕、难过。懂得如何不再执著，才可以忘记与放弃。正如 Ginger 说的, "懂得遗忘的人找到自由", 就是这个意思吧？

我一定要学会遗忘与原谅，only then I can move on and enjoy my life. 你也有烂账堆在心理吗？快点解决它吧。

Vexed

it's like going thru another period of adolescence. I am starting to ask myself all over again: who am I? what do I wanna be? what do I reali want in life? is this correct? why am I so confused? I'm reali tired of being me. at 30 yrs old.

I tend to hate myself a little more aft each major argument or incident i had with colleagues or friends. thank god it dun happened everyday, but it has accumulated over the yrs, and now i think it's begining to decay my soul. and wat's worse - i can see n feel the decay. it's painful... no. it's not the argument itself. but alot of "i shd hv avoided it/ shd hv done tt/ it's my fault" thing. i knw its not healthy, but like everyone say "u need to knw how to cover ur own arse". but i'm simply too short-sighted and always run into faults. can someone juz tell me wat's wrong with me?? u knw? i've been fallin-down, got up, tell myself it's ok, but i fell again, n again. its a vicious cycle. how do i break thru??

• wld changing a new job environment help? i dunno.
• if i ever go, is it a form of escaping? maybe.
• maybe i've lost my passion
• maybe training industry is not whr i wanna be
• i knw, i shd take my degree n upgrade myself... but
• but i reali hate to study. those Statistics & Finance & Econs! Gimme a break... maybe a Dip in some sort of Art/Fashion
• wait, i reali wan to start some cafe with my friends too. but i need to reali plan out this big dream which need big capital

bear with me, but these are the thots tht ran thru my mind again n again everyday. Fear maybe. of failure, of risks of "what-if"s. Damn. Just how do u knw what u want?